Shining a Light

Special thanks to Lisa Endersby for this guest post.

I was taught that emotions are bad, wrong, entities that need to be controlled. Expressing and sharing my emotions makes me weak, vulnerable, too honest and too open. I was taught that leaders don’t cry. I must be strong, in charge and in control. Emotions are to be feared, to be reigned in and to be hidden.

I no longer see it that way.

This openness, this honesty, this raw vulnerability, is perhaps the single greatest expression of my strength.

  “It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.” Marianne Williamson

This light illuminates what I see as my darkest secrets, my deepest scars, my most obvious flaws. It accuses blames. It can be blinding. Who am I to turn away from this light? It is strength, not weakness, which gives me the courage to confront, to challenge and to share these emotions. How could it be weak to acknowledge, display and wrestle with the messy inner workings of my emotions?

Can you see your openness, your authenticity and, yes, your vulnerability, as your greatest strength?

Lisa Endersby, M.Ed., B.Sc. 
Student Experience Advisor, UOIT

SASA LEARN Online Community Facilitator

Board Member, Creative Programs of Ontario (CPO)

Director, University of Toronto Scarborough Alumni Association

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8 responses to this post.

  1. Oh you know I love this. Bring on the vulnerability, bring on the genuine expression of a journey that is bumpy and messy and filled with twists and turns that are so unexpected. And then…we see the strength.

    I loved this.


    • Thanks Deb! I love your positive attitude about this – bring it on indeed! John Lennon must have been onto something when he said ‘Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans’ no? Thanks for helping my light shine a little brighter!


  2. Posted by Robyn Kaplan on February 6, 2012 at 5:54 pm

    Absolutely – thanks for sharing Lisa! It takes some people to say it out loud for the rest of us to realize and remember it.


  3. Posted by Kelley on February 6, 2012 at 5:58 pm

    I agree with Deb, bring on the vulnerability!! I usually write from the heart, no hidden agenda, what you read is what you get. I don’t like to hold anything back because I know that I am speaking someone elses words, pain or thoughts. As far as crying.. well.. “Tears are words the heart can’t express”. sometimes you just have to cry and thats ok:)

    Great post!


    • Thank you Kelley! This post was certainly written from the heart, moreso than much of what I’ve written in the past. I really appreciate the support as I step way out of my comfort zone and share some of my inner workings with all of you.


  4. This is beautiful! Thank you for bringing courage and grace. I have always found the most uplifting voices, passionate people, and authentic expressions when I follow the words you describe above. Brilliant!


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